Q: In what order should they be?
Should they be lined up as to the importance they play in my life,
or should they be lined up according to their height for the aesthetic value and visual presentation?
A: Let's look first at the "importance" factor that these individuals play in your life part of the question.
As we think about this for a moment, we soon realize that everyone you have selected to be in your wedding party plays an important role in your life. Otherwise, they wouldn't be in your wedding party, right? So, it's unlikely that you'll want your dearest friends and family to feel as if they are important to you within some specific or limited pecking order sort of way.
The fact is, they are all very significant and important to you in their own special and unique ways. One is not better or more important than another, they are simply beautifully different. Yes? Yes!
So how can your beloved family and friends be presented as more valued than another without creating a most unpleasant and awkward undertone that will likely create hurt feelings? You can't...it's that simple.
Another way to view this is, can you imagine throwing a dinner party in which everyone invited was lined up in order of importance and relevance of a perceived value. Now, can you image from their perspective how much they would enjoy themselves at your dinner party? That's right, not very much at all. So then, why should your wedding celebration be any different?
Each person should be made to feel loved, honored and appreciated as a whole and spared the needless indignities of some outdated and irrelevant protocol. A wedding celebration is all about honoring love and valuing each other for who they are. Keep that in mind throughout all of your planning arrangements and you'll always know just the right thing to do. Just think with your Heart and you'll always get it right.
My recommendation is:
Go with the neutral aesthetic approach.
This is the most fair and loving way to deal with The Wedding Party Line Up issues.
If you are aware that perhaps someone within your wedding party is sensitive about there height, let's say in this instance, someone is short and they may still have emotional buttons about it.
Then arrange the line up in such a way as to make their height The Aesthetic Focus during the Wedding Line Up, turn it into to something special, made it a positive contribution.
There are a number of ways to achieve this. Ask your wedding photographer for ideas and techniques. They will be able to offer many wonderful suggestions to you.
Aside from that fact that you have likely paid out a good sum of cash for a professional wedding photographer and their artistic skills, by all means, utilize them. In fact, ask your photographer to attend the wedding rehearsal and to give their artistic input about the wedding line up arrangements and to coordinate with your wedding officiate in order to get the best possible shots throughout the entire ceremony from the processional to the recessional.
By taking this approach you'll get the best possible photo opportunities and everyone in your wedding party will feel that they are an important contributing factor in the success and beauty of your wedding, which is one of the reasons they accepted your invitation in the first place, right? They want only the best for you both. Be sure to return that loving intention to all that attend your Wedding Celebration without limitation and you'll have a madly successful wedding celebration.
Have a blessed and beautiful wedding ceremony!
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