Ask any June Bride who's been there and done that, and she'll tell you.
"If you want a June Wedding, then you had better get started very early, or you'll find yourself frantically rummaging for whatever is left over and trying to piece things together from there". It's a wedding planning nightmare that doesn't have to be...if only you had known!
First time bride's that aren't up on their wedding research, often make this one major and critical mistake when making wedding plans.
This oversight will cause a continuations ripple down affect throughout all of her future planning efforts. Which by the way, makes for an unpleasant and prolonged wedding planning odyssey.
So how does this common wedding planning headache begin?
Bridal Shows, yes...that's what I said. Bridal Shows!
I'm not saying that there's any "wrong" with Bridal Shows.
Bridal Shows are great.
But, what I am saying is, the Bride's Perceptions and Exceptions may not be entirely realistic.
It's not her fault, I mean, it's not like you get married everyday, is it?
Here's what I mean...
It begins when a bride makes the mistaken assumption that if she waits until the Bridal Shows, which typically begin in January, a mere six months away from June, she'll be able to waltz right in and find what she's looking for at the time that she wants it.
Giggle, giggle! This is rarely the reality or the case.
She's much more likely to come to the sudden shocking realization that the June she wanted, was booked a year or two ahead of time by those bride's who did their homework well. So, now what?
Here's where the headache really kicks in.
Okay, so now you and everyone else who's helping you plan your wedding, i.e. Groom, Mom and friends and such, all start chiming in at once, in an effort to swoop in and save the day.
Now, take just a moment here to let those dynamics play out in your head and sink in. Feel the tension building?
Yes...it's a major OMG Moment!
Now...take a deep breath and continue reading.
Just follow me here a little while longer and I'll navigate you into calmer waters.
Sound good? Great! Let's get to it.
As pointed out earlier, reserving a June Wedding one to two years ahead is the best practice.
But what if you want a June Wedding before then?
Here's a secret tip, the little known June Wedding options.
But before we go there, first, let's do a little reset on our priorities.
The obvious question is, of course...how important is having a June Wedding to your overall wedding plans?
If it's not that big of an issue, then this is going to be pretty easy to resolve.
There are several other months in the year to consider. See my earlier article on
Choosing your wedding date. Peak Season, Sub Peak and Off Season months.
However, if June is a must, here are some tips that may prove helpful.
As I write this, it's November. I know all too well that there are scores of young brides out there just saving it all up for the January Bride Shows, and chomping at the bit, only to be stymied at the gate.
By now, you understand that waiting until January may not be your best utilization of time. The best thing to do at this point is to get a
Jump On June...in the moment of now!
Begin searching venues for a June opening anywhere.
The truth is, you don't have the time to be too stuck on anything if your heart is set on a June Wedding.
This is when you want to find your inner Wedding Zen Zone and learn to flow with it like a leaf on the river, Grasshopper Bride.
Right now, for instance, Wedding Barns are all the craze, so...you'll likely not find any that are available for this coming June, unless you are prepared to postpone your wedding for a year or two.
I'm guessing, this isn't going to fly well with your wedding plans if you are still reading this article. Let's continue...for best results step entirely out of the popular crowd wedding crazed matrix.
This is a good time for the two of you, as a couple, to have a sincere and honest one on one about what's most important to you concerning your wedding presentation and reception event.
By doing this, you'll both soon realize, it's really not about
"barn wedding", it's about something much more important and substantial than that. Once you both clear in this area, the rest starts falling into place and becomes much easier.
After all, it's really all about the love you share and the union you are entering into to...this is the only thing that truly matters...everything else is just stuff and trimmings, right?
Think of it in this way. Loving each other feels natural, easy and real.
So should your wedding.
The best practice is to reserve the Wedding Officiate at pretty much the same time you reserve your wedding venue. Taking this approach insures that you have your wedding foundations solidly in place and rest is about having fun with the add-ons and decorations.
By now you should both be feeling much more relaxed, self confident, in control and looking forward to your wedding plans than you did when you first started this article. Excellent and well done!
Then my work is done here...at least for the moment.
See You at the Altar,